Hi Doy,
I am new to this site and was scanning the different posts when I read your prayer request. It is a terrible thing to go from a place of trust to distrust in so short a time. We think we know someone, but we don't.
I can't give you the answer to your problem, only God can do that, but I have been studying I Corinithians of late and realized in a new and fresh way that there is nothing new under the sun. The church in Corinth was experiencing the same kinds of things that we are experiencing today. Corinth was a very pagan city and every evil imaginable was going on. In the midst of all this the gospel was preached and people believed and were saved. The person who was saved may have been married to someone involved in a immoral lifestye, homosexuality, adultery, fornication, living together, prostitution, child sacrifices etc. etc. In chapter 7 Paul address the plight of the Christians in Corinth in regards to marriage, divorce and such. You might take a serious look at what is said there, keeping in mind the conditions and time in which Paul wrote. It might be helpful and comforting to know that God has been dealing with these situations down through the ages and that He has a direction and plan for you to follow.
God bless you as stand firmly on the solid rock of your faith in Christ and may He comfort you and make your way clear.
Fundancer
Originally Posted by DaughterofYAH
Thank you fundancer, for your scripture references, I really appreciate it.. Through the last 3 weeks I have experienced a rollarcoaster of emotions from disbelief to depression and back again... It has been and will be I'm sure a hard road, but I will make it. I know that Father has plans for my life and although I may not be able to see them now, He will reveal his plan when he is ready...
DOY
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"You take the blue pill, the story end. You wake up in your bed and believe, whatever you want to.... You take the red pill, you stay in wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes...."
Take a breath DOY- when you don't know what to do, do nothing.
"Be still, and know that I am God."
Can I ask you a question?
Let's say, you and your husband were just dating at this point, and he told you all this information.
Would you still go ahead and marry him?
You're husband has already broken the marriage contract by having an affair.
Even God says once that has happened, you are free to move on.
Do you believe God? If you do, then you have nothing to worry about regarding divorce if that's what you choose to do.
As for your husband, he is making excuses.
God is not making him cheat on you, or chase other men. That is his CHOICE, so don't buy that argument.
What he wants is your blessing on his homosexuality. That way he can have his (running with fingers),
then come running to you to take care of his dirty laundry - and I don't just mean his clothes.
Sorry, but his lack of respect for you, himself, and most of all God, is appalling.
You can forgive him and love him forever, but that doesn't mean you have to live with him.
God Bless!
Oh, and a PS too.
Remember- when God takes something out of your life, it's only to make room for something much better.
Trust Him!
Eleven,
I can't honestly answer that question not having been in that situation... Some days when I think about it I say NO I WOULD ABSOLUTELY NOT HAVE MARRIED HIM!!! Then other days I feel like I still would have and I know that makes no sense..
As for his excuses I KNOW that is what he is doing, but what the head knows and what the heart feels are often 2 seperate things.
I agree, there is something better for me out there... Someone who shares my beliefs and will lead my home the way a husband is supposed to..... But all of that in Father's time of course...
Shalom.
DOY
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"You take the blue pill, the story end. You wake up in your bed and believe, whatever you want to.... You take the red pill, you stay in wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes...."
Issues of the heart are the most painful DOY. Issues of the mind are the cruelest.
What you have posted here makes perfect sense, actually.
Whenever there is conflict, there is pain.......heart and mind in conflict with each other---and where is God in all of this?
It is only when all come to an agreement, that you can make a decision.
Give yourself time to come into agreement, whatever you decide to do.
But remember, there are three of you in this relationship, you, your husband, and God.
If one of you is being hurt, then the relationship must end.
But if you all can come into agreement, then nothing can stop you.
God Bless!
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Dear friends,
I know it has been several months since my last post. I appologize for that. My life has been an upsetting and scary rollarcoaster for the last 6 months and things are finally starting to settle back down. I thought my first post "back on the site" should be an update as to what is going on with this situation.
I have filed for divorce and found out yesterday that my court date is August 9th. It took me quite a while to come to that decision but now that I've made it I feel much better. I pray everyday to continue on a path of forgiveness and calm, because the last thing I want is to become bitter. It would be oh so easy to be bitter. I have a wonderful supportive family that has been so very helpful during these past few months and I am so thankful for them and the friends that have stood by me through this trial.
I felt that I had lost myself and I have finally found myself again and have also found a renewed faith in YHWH our Father and He has even brought a new someone into my life. We are only friends for now and we are taking our time getting to know each other. We will see what happens there!
Anyway,
IT IS SO GOOD TO BE BACK!
MB
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"You take the blue pill, the story end. You wake up in your bed and believe, whatever you want to.... You take the red pill, you stay in wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes...."
Good to have you back, DOY. Just PLEASE, pace yourself with this new someone. Divorce is not easy.
Believe me, I have been there. Now is a most vulnerable time. Step back, and take a breath.
Give yourself time before moving on with someone new.
Eleven...
Eleven,
Thank you for the concern and care you show with your words of warning. I know you only speak them from the best intentions. Please be reassured that I am not so foolish that I would jump right back into another relationship so soon. I know very well that my heart still has a great deal of healing to do and I am in no hurry, and neither is he. The distance between us makes it easier to spend lots of time getting acquainted before we go any further. We met in my hometown where I live now and he lives a good distance away. Far enough that we would have to fly to see each other. I am planning a trip to see him in late september and he is planning on coming here in january. I will stay with him and his daughter when I visit them and when he comes here the three of us are going to my families cabin with my family. Its a trip we take every year that I have missed for the past 5 years because my husband never wanted me to go.
Blessibgs,
MB
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"You take the blue pill, the story end. You wake up in your bed and believe, whatever you want to.... You take the red pill, you stay in wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes...."
Well you sound wonderful.. I'm so glad to hear it.
God only takes away in order to give you something better.
Be well, and God Bless.
Amen
Lord we believe,help our unbelief for you have given us all things that pertain to life and goddliness
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