Reply With QuoteWell Jesus didn't add the part about fornication for nothing. I'd take him (Jesus) at his word.
Yehu
PS: You know, his (your "husband's") lying bothers me more. The root of all evil is lying. The other stuff's just sex.
conclusion of sorts
Thank you all so much for your kind words of wisdom and your honesty. I can honestly say that what I have heard here has been exactly what I needed to hear.
Now I must bite the bullet so to speak and describe the conversation I had with my husband last night.
Once again we say down to talk about things and I can honestly say that my reaction last night was the most severe I have had through this entire process. Last night my husband admitted to having an affair with a man for over a year now. As if that's not enough he introduced me to this man and brought him home "as a friend" after the affair started. I was completely suckered in. I honestly believed him when he said "this is what we do, minister to broken people." how could I have been so naïve? How did I miss the fact that he was changing before my very eyes? You all have no idea the torment I have gone through this past 12 hours. In total I have Been physically sick multiple times since this all started, I haven't ate since noon on Saturday and I've had less than 5 hours total sleep and last night was the majority of those. I couldn't stay at home last night, I went to my parents garage apartment so that we each could have some alone time to figure out what we want. I only have a moment more so let me reassure one of you my dear friends and say that MILD has been my immediate reaction for each piece of the hell. Like I said last nights reaction was the most severe and it was just mild anger, nothing near what I am capable of.
At this point I really don't know if reconciliation is best. The thought of him touching me even in a non-intimate way right now makes me want to vomit. I feel no compulsion at all to continue this farce. I will be making a decision soon so please my friends pray for me. Pray for father to lead me because it is awfully hard to hear him when you are so full of hurt.
Doy
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"You take the blue pill, the story end. You wake up in your bed and believe, whatever you want to.... You take the red pill, you stay in wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes...."
Well Jesus didn't add the part about fornication for nothing. I'd take him (Jesus) at his word.
Yehu
PS: You know, his (your "husband's") lying bothers me more. The root of all evil is lying. The other stuff's just sex.
Last edited by Yehushuan; 01-05-2010 at 05:01 PM.
The squeaky nail gets the hammer.
Einstein was right. God doesn't play dice with the Universe. He plays roulette. (Learned it from the Russians.)
I will pray for you, DOY. But I would say it looks like your sexuality and your husband's is not very compatible.
Establishing the law by receiving the righteousness which is by faith, without the deeds of the law!
2 Cor 3 "11For if that which is done away was glorious, much more that which remaineth is glorious."
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boy oh boy Daughter I am so sorry you or any body has to go through this or anything that can be so disheartening .Praise God at least now you know I won't tell you to move on or stay thats between God you and him.Regardless what you do you are going to have to let it go and allow God's forgiveness to flow from your heart. Please don't allow this to fester in you. Bitterness and what not will destroy you like a cancer. Let it go and move on don't let the devil play his game on you. Resist him he will flee for he can not stand in the presence of the power of the Holy One. Have faith and believe and the God of heaven will continue to work you through this.Originally Posted by DaughterofYAH
Talk to you later your friend Scott
Last edited by lightbearer; 01-06-2010 at 05:00 AM.
Lord we believe,help our unbelief for you have given us all things that pertain to life and goddliness
Doy...
IF you choose to leave...you will be in Jehovah's blessing...because of on the fornication part...if you seriously cannot forgive him...then again, just like Yehu has pointed out in word...you will have Jehovah's blessing to do so.
My thing is this...
It's not that I CAN'T forgive him. That part has been easy. I do forgive him. Absolutely forgiven. Yes, I am still hurt. Yes, I am still upset, but truly I have forgiven him. I just can't seem to FORGET. Images of what he was doing haunt me at night while I try to sleep. Every word out of my 6 year old brothers mouth about "bubby" haunt me during the day. Every altercation between my parents, my dad and brother, mom and brother, or all three of them, haunt me! I feel like everything around me is chaos. My home is chaotic(my apartment at my parents because that is where I am moving to, I can't afford anything else) my parents house is chaotic, my mind is chaotic, my spirit feels chaotic. Chaos is all around and that is honestly what is getting to me the most. That is where I am going now, to clean and organize and hopefully straighten out some of this uproar that I feel.
Thank you my dear friends for all of your love and support. I really do appreciate it so much more than you can even imagine!
DOY
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"You take the blue pill, the story end. You wake up in your bed and believe, whatever you want to.... You take the red pill, you stay in wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes...."
Are you scripturally free to divorce if your spouse has stepped out on you? What about an affair of the heart, lusting after others? This could be a life-threatening decision if you get a disease from your spouse. Let's say you don't make love again... are you willing to possibly shoulder the burden of caring for someone physically, emotionally and financially if he were to acquire the AIDS virus because he decides to take it to the next level?
When I got divorced, there were all kinds of tongues wagging about my decision. In my case, my spouse did cheat on me and I did end up with a little 'present' as a result. He had been doing things that were unhealthy and non-productive in our marriage for quite some time. That act just sealed the deal. I prayed to God about this because it is a difficult thing no matter what the reason. Here's what I came to realize: Divorce is allowed in the case of infidelity because of the hard-heartedness of man. I thought it was my hard-heartedness that was in question but came to realize it was my spouses hard-heartedness over a period of years that eventually led to the dissolution of our marriage.
Pray about this earnestly and listen with your heart to the response.
Luv
Matthew 6:21
For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.
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Daughter...
Stability...now is the time...
Forgive yourself hon, you could not have seen this happening. Now is the time for rest...there is something I would like to share with you regarding stability.
Isaiah 33:6
New International Version (©1984)
He will be the sure foundation for your times, a rich store of salvation and wisdom and knowledge; the fear of the LORD is the key to this treasure.
New Living Translation (©2007)
In that day he will be your sure foundation, providing a rich store of salvation, wisdom, and knowledge. The fear of the LORD will be your treasure.
New American Standard Bible (©1995)
And He will be the stability of your times, A wealth of salvation, wisdom and knowledge; The fear of the LORD is his treasure.
GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995)
He will be the foundation of your future. The riches of salvation are wisdom and knowledge. The fear of the LORD is [your] treasure.
HOW? WISDOM AND KNOWLEDGE...
BY THE WORD OF GOD...this is the time of YOUR STABILITY...the wisdom and the knowledge that it provides IS YOUR STRENGTH of salvation.
Prayer...helps to allay anxiety. Jacob prayed because he was in fear of his brother and this gave him great anxiety he felt UWORTHY of all the lovingkindness and of all the faithfulness that Jehovah had exercied towards him...
Deliver ME, I pray you from my Brother's hand...he cried out (now you are not under your brother's hand, but are wanting to be delivered out of a situation)
When reading about Jacob...he not only expressed his fears within and just plead for help...he also expressed his faith towards God. Genesis 32:9-12 and Genesis 33:1-4
Also look at 2 Corinthians 7:5 their flesh had NO REST they were troubled on EVERY SIDE without were fightings within were fears...
You are fighting on the outside...and are fearing on the inside....NEVERTHELESS Vs. 6 God that comforteth those that are cast down (you hon-you may feel that you are cast down right now) comforted us by the coming of TITUS...a spiritual brother...that is why you are here.
Vs. 7 But (pertaining to Titus) not by his coming only but BY THE CONSOLATION.
You were given a letter of sorts from you husband that made you sorry on the inside (just like Paul had given a letter to the Corinth congregation here)
Vs. 11 (they took the right approach to the letter received, just like you did) they sorrowed after it IN A GODLY WAY
this situation you are in...as wrought in you carefulness, clearing of yourself...and etc. if you read this verse, they took the letter in all things were approved by HOW they reacted...
No matter what situation we are going through whether being reproved because we are wrong in the word of God, or going through problems with our marriage or whatever, we have to react in the manner that pleases Jehovah.
You have done this...you have taken the correct steps...NOW, is the time for YOUR stability.
Much love,
Ree
I hear what you are saying luvin,
But here's my problem.... He ABSOLUTELY refuses to admit that what he is doing is wrong. Yes, he says the affair was wrong, but he doesn't believe that the homosexual feelings are wrong. He honestly believes that Father made him that way.... WTH!!!!! I would have no problem with reconciliation if it weren't for this one fact. How can I peacefully live out my life with my husband knowing that he has every intention of continuing down this very risky path(even if you remove Father and sin from the situation) and expects me to be ok with it!!!!!! Again I'm not angry, really I'm not. Am I hurt, yes, upset, yes, confused, absolutely! If it weren't for that then reconciliation would be the best, but I don't see how Father would want me to stay in a loveless marriage with a man who swears he is gay... At this point unless his beliefs change I see no way to reconcile and no reason to do so. I still love him and I want him to be happy. I have even gone so far as to make him swear not to hurt himself and to be careful in his new chosen lifestyle, he hadn't even thought about the fact that it is VERY RiSKY. I still love him dearly but I CANNOT live out the rest of my life knowing that my husband is running around behind my back, because if it has happened once it will happen again, unless he changes which he has no intentions of doing. So, right now it's permanent seperation, then divorce. Oh geez, what a nasty word!!!
DOY
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"You take the blue pill, the story end. You wake up in your bed and believe, whatever you want to.... You take the red pill, you stay in wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes...."
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